Prejudice on a plate: Another restaurant worker in the US gets homophobic abuse in lieu of a tip
This time in New Jersey, at the Gallop Asian Bistro in Bridgewater.
When Dayna Morales – who served with the Marines for two years from 2009 – introduced herself to a couple and their two children, the mother was allegedly shocked by Morales’ short hair, and said:
Oh I thought you were gonna say your name is Dan. You sure surprised us!
At the end of the meal, Morales was left with no tip on the $93.55 bill. Instead, she found a note on the receipt, reading:
I’m sorry but I cannot tip because I don’t agree with your lifestyle & how you live your life.
Unlike the Kansas incident this family did not identify as Christians, but I think we can safely assume that they were.
The note left for the unnamed 20-year-old Kansas waiter read:
Thank you for your service, it was excellent. That being said, we cannot in good conscience tip you, for your homosexual lifestyle is an affront to GOD.
Queers do not share in the wealth of GOD, and you will not share in ours. We hope you will see the tip your fag choices made you lose out on, and plan accordingly.
It is never too late for GOD’S love, but none shall be spared for fags. May GOD have mercy on you.
Morales reacted angrily by penning a note she put online, and it found its way onto Facebook:
I am THOROUGHLY offended mad pissed off and hurt that THIS is what her kids will grow up learning and that I served in the Marines to keep ignorant people like them free. Sorry lady but I don’t agree with YOUR lifestyle and the way you’re raising your kids but you didn’t see me throwing that in your face and giving you shitty service. Keep your damn mouth shut and pray we never cross paths again.
Facebook users offered their support to Morales in response to the post. One person wrote:
As a member of the heterosexual community, I beg your forgiveness for these ignorant people.
I always tip 15 percent to 20 percent no matter who my server is, what my server does out side of the place is none of my business.
People have sent me tips from all over the world just to show support. I have had people from Germany to South Africa, Australia to the UK, San Diego, everywhere … It’s great to see everybody’s support and I’m thankful for it, but it doesn’t excuse or change the fact that it actually did happen.
She revealed she had received around $2,000 thus far.
It wasn’t for the money. I never planned on this. I just wanted to vent. The purpose was to inform people it wasn’t OK.
Now Morales wants to help others by giving a portion of the money to the Wounded Warrior Project to help injured servicemen and women.
Morales’ employer plans to match every donation. The waitress also told the Asbury Park Press that her boss was not mad she posted the check to Facebook, and spoke of the support she had from colleagues:
We are kind of a big family so they all took it to heart. My manager assured me that if they had seen the check before the family left they would have confronted them.
After the Kansas story went viral, Willy Blackmore, food editor for the US Take Part website, wrote:
Here are a few things not to take into account when calculating the tip you leave on a restaurant check. Your tip should not be contingent on your server’s race. It should not be withheld, dudes, if the attractive female server didn’t deign to flirt with you. It shouldn’t be a pittance because you just can’t afford to give anymore—that means you can’t afford the meal in the first place.
You certainly should not bring your personal religious beliefs, contra your server’s sexuality, into consideration.
A restaurant, he concluded:
Is not a space to make some moral crusade.
If you want to offer your support, donations to Morales for the Wounded Warrior Project can be sent to Gallop Asian Bistro, 793 Route 202, Branchburg, NJ 08876, or can be delivered in person.
NOTE: I just discovered that Reddit Atheism has launched its annual charity drive. Its aim is to raise $10,000 or more for Doctors Without Borders (Médecins Sans Frontières):
Greetings heathens! The days are getting shorter, the winter solstice is upon us, the tax year is ending, and it’s time once again for the annual r/atheism end-of-year charity drive. As usual, our charity is going to be Doctors Without Borders (Médecins Sans Frontières).
Doctors Without Borders provides medical relief to the world’s most needy people, and they provide aid without regard to race, religion, or political affiliation, and without a religious agenda. Right now they’re in the Philippines providing relief to those who were hit by typhoon Haiyan, and they really need our help to make that happen.