Atheists exhorted to ‘come out’ the closet
WHILE devout Christians are doing ghoulish things this weekend to mark Easter (I snapped the pic below last night of a procession of Spanish faith-heads in pointy black hoods passing a gay bar in Benidorm), many atheists in the US are attending the American Atheists convention in Salt Lake City.
One of the speakers at the AA event is Greta Christina, a well-known atheist activist, author, blogger and speaker, who, according to this report by Kimberly Winson, had this to say to closeted atheists:
Ask your openly gay and lesbian friends if their lives are better for coming out.
The answer, almost universally, she claims, is yes. That’s the message of her new book, Coming Out Atheist: How to Do It, How to Help Each Other, and Why.
In an interview ahead of the convention, Christina – pictured above with a knitted version of The Flying Spaghetti Monster – said:
What non-believers have to gain in coming out is a better life. This has been true about LGBT people, as well. Even in a phobic world, we are usually happier when we come out and the same seems to be true of atheists when they come out, too.
Christina speaks from experience. In addition to being an atheist who came out to her family and friends nine years ago, she is also married to another woman.
Her message is knowingly patterned on the experience of the LGBT community, which has long encouraged lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender people to be public about their sexuality. Only by doing so, the thinking goes, can homosexuality be destigmatised and equality achieved.
And it’s worked. Gay marriage is now legal in 17 states. There are now openly gay members of Congress and professional sports teams and Hollywood has a firmament of gay and lesbian stars.
And just this week, at the White House Easter Prayer Breakfast, President Obama asked Gene Robinson, an openly gay Episcopal bishop, to give a benediction.
So why shouldn’t atheists take a page from the homosexual playbook? In the past decade or so, many atheist and humanist leaders have begun to openly acknowledge they can learn from those who fought for equality before them.
Said David Silverman, President of American Atheists, who invited Christina to speak at the 2012 “Reason Rally,” which drew upwards of 10,000 non-believers to the Washington Mall:
I am learning not only from the gay rights movement, but the civil rights movement and the women’s liberation movement. Closeted LGBT and closeted atheists have the same problems. And the LGBT movement is going to win and so are we.
Studies show atheists need to improve their image. A 2006 study conducted by researchers at the University of Minnesota found atheists are the most mistrusted and disliked group of Americans and:
A glaring exception to the rule of increasing tolerance over the last 30 years.
Five years later, a study conducted by the University of Oregon and the University of British Columbia found that the distrust of atheists stems not from dislike, but from “moral distrust.” In other words, a large segment of Americans thinks atheists, because they do not have any religion, have no morals.
There are a lot of myths and understandings about atheists. There is the belief that we don’t have any morality, any meaning, any joy in our lives. There’s an idea that we are just in rebellion against religion, that we don’t want to follow rules. When there is stigma against you, it makes life harder for a hundred different reasons.
The first step in the solution is for non-believers to come out and show they have the same desires, concerns and problems as their religious neighbors, she said. From there, they can build communities and find support — the things many religious believers say they find in their houses of worship.
Said Kurt Volkan, founder of Pitchstone Publishing, which published “Coming Out Atheist” and other books about non-belief:
Coming out helps normalize non-belief. And normalizing atheism helps create space for non-believers in all parts of the country and allows them to interact with friends, families and co-workers in an open and honest way. The more people who encounter nonbelievers, the more accepted they will be.
Still, Christina wants atheists to come out only if they consider it “safe” to do so. For the book, she gathered more than 400 “coming out stories” from non-believers around the world. All but one said their lives were better for having done it.
That is one of the things that really struck me. When you are in the closet and there is stigma against you, you tend to internalize that stigma. But if you speak up and say that stigma is wrong, you don’t have to take that negative opinion into you. Living in fear is difficult.