Wanted: a godly son-in-law (black men need not apply)

Wanted: a godly son-in-law (black men need not apply)

A Georgia couple  – Anna and Glenn – found themselves at the centre of a media storm this week after Anna’s mother, Christian blogger Gaye Clark, wrote an racist article for The Gospel Coalition.

Entitled “When God Sends Your White Daughter a Black Husband “,  Clark, who describes herself on Twitter as a “recovering Pharisee”, wrote that she had “asked the Lord” to send her daughter a husband who is:

Godly, kind, a great dad, and a good provider.

What she didn’t count on was:

God sending an African-American with dreads named Glenn.

The outrage this provoked sent Clark, a cardiac nurse in Augusta, into full-on panic mode, and she asked the Gospel Coalition to delete the article. And yesterday it did. It also directed visitors to its site to a follow-up “conversation”.

Gaye Clark

Gaye Clark

TGC said:

Understandable frustration and constructive concern was not the only response [to the article]. Sadly, white supremacists have threatened the author and her family.

Clark claims she never held a “prejudice” against interracial marriage.

Even so, she felt the need to compile an eight-step guide for how to handle one.

Her tips included:

• Remember your daughter’s ultimate loyalty is not to you or your family, but to the Lord.

• Remember heaven’s demographics.

• As you pray for your daughter to choose well, pray for your eyes to see clearly, too. Glenn moved from being a black man to beloved son when I saw his true identity as an image bearer of God, a brother in Christ, and a fellow heir to God’s promises.

Two days after posting her guide, the divine intervention of backlash apparently gave Clark a change of heart.

I have asked TGC to remove my article from their website,” she tweeted yesterday morning.

I am profoundly grieved over the hurt and harm it has caused. Would covet prayers.

An article intended to celebrate God’s work in this family’s life also became an occasion for hurt and pain.

In a Gospel Coalition post from last year, Clark admitted to once believing:

Most African-Americans who decried racism in America were being overly sensitive.

But she changed her mind after befriending a black church member.

In another piece, she criticisd a gay worker, Mark, for his:

Emotional preferences and cherished identity as a gay man. Mark’s deepest obstacle wasn’t his homosexuality; it was his unbelief. He had exchanged the truth for a lie – even believing the lie to be a virtue.

However, she criticized herself for only considering her coworker:

Through the lens of his sexual sin.

20 responses to “Wanted: a godly son-in-law (black men need not apply)”

  1. AgentCormac says:

    ‘Remember your daughter’s ultimate loyalty is not to you or your family, but to the Lord.’

    Heil, mein Führer!

  2. Peterat says:

    Can you “covet” in the future tense: “I would covet prayers.” ??

  3. CoastalMaineBird says:

    Why would white-supremacists threaten the author of a racist article?
    Sounds like it’s right up their alley…

  4. David Anderson says:

    Peterat: Very strange choice and use of the word there, especially as it is supposed to be a big no no. Also, I have heard of it only used in the reference to possessions (women included of course). Who knows what goes on in the mind of the deluded?

  5. sailor1031 says:

    Seems more that what she wrote expressed how wrong she had been in her previous benighted attitudes towards blacks and how she now sees she was wrong. That would be enough to get death threats from the local KKK-types anywhere in the “true south”. Georgia is not known for its social progressiveness.

  6. Vanity Unfair says:

    As I read it, what Mrs. Clark is saying is that the more people she meets, the more she realises that they are people.
    That has to be an improvement over prejudicial categorisation based on inculcated stereotypes.
    Who knows; the next step might be reconsidering people outside her religious ghetto.

  7. barriejohn says:


    Glenn moved from being a black man to beloved son when I saw his true identity as an image bearer of God, a brother in Christ, and a fellow heir to God’s promises.

    That’s what got their goat!

  8. L.Long says:

    OH! Let’s admit it aint about race! They just don’t want their cute daughter marrying some poor ugly dude!! ;-}

  9. nogbad666 says:

    ” Remember heaven’s demographics.”

    What are they,exactly, and where are they described?

  10. AgentCormac says:

    @Vanity Unfair
    A very astute observation.

  11. Broga says:

    ” Would covet prayers.” I haven’t come across that one before.

    “Mark’s deepest obstacle wasn’t his homosexuality; it was his unbelief.” Looks like homosexuality is bad but no way as bad as unbelief. Yup, atheists one and all, we are the worst.

    Although as Shakespeare said somewhere there is nothing good nor bad but thinking makes it so. And, unlike Ms Clarke, it was with some relief to us that our children married atheists.

  12. barriejohn says:

    “We would covet your prayers” was a phrase which I heard over and over again when with the Brethren. Some call this sort of expression “Christianese”:

    Many jokes and cartoons exist regarding other Christian expressions, like “journeying mercies”. They really do have a language of their own!

  13. Trevor Blake says:

    “And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman.” – Numbers 12:1

    Christianity is against interracial marriage until it is for it, until it is against it, until it is for it…

    Or perhaps Christianity, like all religion, chases after the secular. Secular morals abandon racial segregation, and Christians rush up to take credit. After thousands of years of supporting slavery and segregation, they now crow how the Civil Rights Movement was made up of churches. As if somehow we’ll forget the previous few thousand years. Nah, I remember. I’ll remember later on when you change your mind again about the immutable laws of your God.

  14. 1859 says:

    Sounds to me like she was on the cusp of being an out and out white supremacist, but contact with real, live black people, fortunately, tipped her the other way.

    There is a monastery/convent somewhere outside Barcelona where they worship the Black Madonna. Takes all sorts guys.

  15. barriejohn says:

    @1859: Reality has a rather nasty habit of upsetting religious bigotry and preconceptions. There are many “Black Madonnas”, and they remain a mystery. We all know that Mary was really fair-skinned and blonde!

  16. Brian Jordan says:

    ‘Can you “covet” in the future tense: “I would covet prayers.” ??’
    She just didn’t finish the sentence. It should read
    “I would covet prayers, if I thought they would work.”

  17. L.Long says:

    barrieJ – Your eye chart comment shows you have not been listening to many parents who daughters picked a mate. Most say…Not handsome enough…not rich enough…not religious enough…etc. The guy is never good enough!

  18. Peterat says:

    I would covet my neighbour’s wife, if she lost 20 kilos!

  19. Vanity Unfair says:

    To barriejohn:
    Re black Madonnas; this is from: The Christ,A Critical Review and Analysis of the Evidence of His Existence by John E. Remsberg 1909. It is available on Gutenberg and other websites and has been liberally plagiarised all over the Internet. The scholarship might not be up-to-date since it was written over a century ago. I just happen to be reading it now.

    “The ‘Black Virgins,’” says Charles W. King, “so highly reverenced in certain French cathedrals during the Middle Ages, proved, when critically examined, basalt figures of Isis.”(The Gnostics and their Remains;1864, p. 71.)

    Black Madonnas: red faces. If you have a few hours spare it’s well worth reading if you haven’t already.
    I sent this earlier but it does not seem to have arrived.